In every circumstance we'll have problems but if we have jah on our side the troubles will be easier to get through and we'll come out better persons from them and then those problems will be gone and we'll be strong because we handled them his way.
Tell your wife, this is very true. You havn't left Jehovah, and there is no reason to think we don't have his holy spirit. JW's seem to assume when one leaves the WT they throw the baby out with the bathwater, forsaking belief in Jehovah, Jesus and the Bible too! I recently did research for my sis-in-law and came up with a number of WT references showing (from the WT standpoint) we all can ask for Jehovah's holy spirit. Here they are, and maybe they will help your wife realize, we all can ask for help (even though the WT also says we need them for salvation). Here are a couple.
2/1/1992 p14:
20 What a powerful force this spirit is! But how can Christians today avail themselves of it? First, Jesus said we should ask for it, so why not do just that? Pray to Jehovah to give you this wonderful gift not only in times of stress but on every occasion. In addition, read the Bible so that holy spirit can speak to you. (Compare Hebrews 3:7.) Meditate on what you read and apply it so that holy spirit can be an influence in your life. (Psalm 1:1-3)
9/15/1992 p13:
3 If something is robbing you of peace, joy, or some other godly quality, it would be wise to pray for God’s holy spirit, or active force. Why? Because Jehovah’s spirit produces good fruitage that helps a Christian to face problems, trials, and temptations
(can't seem to get out of this small print!)
Little Bo Peep